Beware behold that girl who sits right there,
Look at her and what is it that you see,
She knows, she has noticed you do not care,
For you ignore the pain she is showing,
She walks you whisper as she passes by,
She sits in silence with her guard drawn up,
But you still taunt and tease and spread your lies,
But that girl over there has had enough,
Do you care, do you mind…no not at all,
You just laugh not caring about her pain,
For she’s just another girl in the hall,
A constant struggle she lived everyday,
But when you have realized what you have done,
The pain had been to much…now she is gone.
Bullying. We've all been there. At least once in our lives we have either been the victim, the bystander, or the perpetrator. I couldn't begin to tell you how many times I have found myself in a situation involving bullying. Sometimes you feel lost, sometimes you feel broken, but most of the time you feel lonely. Who do you run to? Who do you cry out to? How do you let others know that you are hurting? You tell yourself everything will be fine, but eventually you can't take anymore. You get so lost in your head that you eventually begin to believe the rumors. You start to tell yourself that all of the lies are true. And you begin to feel as if you are at fault. But, I am here to tell you you are NEVER as alone as you may feel. You are NOT the one to blame. And most importantly, your LIFE matters!
Kids are cruel. That is an inevitable fact; but we are not just cruel to others, but to ourselves as well. We spend countless hours staring at the mirror, wondering if our body is "perfect". We stare at our phones hoping someone "likes" our Instagram pictures. And for what? For others' approval? Why? Why do we so eagerly crave the approvals of others? Why can't we believe in ourselves? Believe in our own beauty? Tune out the haters! Walk to the beat of your own drum! And most importantly LOVE YOU FOR YOU!
I am here to say that regardless of who you are or where you have been, I love you! And, no I am not just sitting here typing away pretending to understand. I am not going to pretend to be perfect either, because I am not. I have been on all three sides of the bullying spectrum, and I will absolutely admit that. Yes, I have been teased. Yes, I have teased others. And, yes I have watched someone be teased and said nothing. Why? Because of fear. I feared standing up for myself, so I just laughed when I felt broken inside. I feared others would see my pain, so I lashed out, hoping I could release that pain by putting it on others. And I've feared becoming the new victim so I've sat in silence. Am I proud of any of it...Of course not! However, it has provided me with wisdom. It's because of my experiences, that I have the outlook on life that I have now. And that's why I can say I get it...and I'm here to help. Use your experiences to help foster positive growth. We make mistakes, we are human, but we can always turn these mistakes into learning experiences.
Whether you are the victim, the bully, or the bystander, know you can make a change for the better. Stand up for yourself, seek help, and always try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Because everyone is facing an uphill battle, that is hidden from their neighbor.
My Contact Info (if you just want someone to listen, understand, or help you. I am always here): firstname.lastname@example.org
Everyone has a story. Everyone has a battle they are fighting. Everyone has been there. What is your story?